BULLETS: Control Over Our Words

“Words are like bullets; if they escape, you can’t catch them again.”

I think this African proverb answer the question: should anyone post anything on their social media accounts?

I’ve been reading a lot of hateful posts (not towards me though, thank goodness!) and belittling articles on social media these past few weeks. Really? Is this the new trend now? I’m hoping it’s not.

Each person is responsible for his or her words. May it be written or spoken. When one realizes that words can actually hurt and cannot easily be “taken back,” then more effort will be taken to use words that are helpful and uplifting.

Being cautious with the words one uses is the main essence of this proverb.

Nowadays, the leading social media platforms allow their users to POST, to LIKE and to SHARE anything the users desire to share with the public.

Anything, in this context, may include inspiring and motivating statements, tactless and upsetting messages, sarcastic and double-meaning texts or anything that may exist in an individual’s coconut shell.

This “anything” may possibly reach every corners of the globe and may be known to every breathing creature existing in the planet since we only have a small world. However, this chance may deliver either encouragement or social threats.

Yes, you and I can post whatever we desire to post, may it be out of our conscious conscience or not or in pursuit of fair treatment or for whatever purposes. There are many reasons under the sun.

By simply clicking on the mouse, our friend or foe may receive our message in just a minute or less. That same message can travel across the seas and over the mountains and can be viewed by so many netizens. Moreover, that same message can uplift one’s life or worst, destroy another’s existence.

At present, there are existing cases involving the use of these social media in demeaning others’ lives. The misuse of this chance is heavily unacceptable.

Everyone should remember that “One’s freedom ends when the other’s freedom starts”. This includes the use of social media.

We’re free to post whatever we desire to post and express whatever we want to express. This is part of freedom us a human. However, we should know that this freedom is limited and has its definite boundary; and that’s being humane.

Every action has its corresponding aftereffects. Think twice before posting anything. That’s quite enough time to weigh the possible results of the action to be done.  Don’t be overpowered by your emotions. We have control over ourselves. We are liable for whatever actions we make and accountable for all the consequences.

May we all be positive influencers creating a much better society.

Bless your hearts!




ACCEPTANCE: The Social Media Trap

My younger brother (Buboy) said, “My Instagram followers are fluctuating. Some are unfollowing!”; giving me the disapproving look of what’s happening with his account.


His reaction is based on one thing and that led me to this.

One of the basic needs of a human being is ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance is a NEED and not a mere want. In our world, it matters. It matters A LOT! GRAVELY!

There are so many ways that acceptance can be felt. It varies from the littlest act of smiling to blurting out of words of appreciation to the grandest of it all – the feeling of being loved.

In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, it permeates the top levels to show its grave importance. More important than the food we eat, more important than the clothes we wear or much more than the new gadget we have right now.

maslow's hierarchy of needs

In our society, acceptance means the sense of belongingness, a sense of being valued, a sense of being part of the family or the group, a sense of being respected, a sense of being in meaningful connections and relationships and a sense of recognition.

And in this technology based world dominated by the use of social media, the feeling of being accepted is quantified.

The number of friends or likers on Facebook, number of followers, love reactions on Instagram and Twitter, name it! They are all based on the “how many” idea. The more the many-er.


The more IG followers or FB friends, the more you become “accepted” by the society. So the moment of unfollows and unfriending, you get easily devastated.

You question your worth. You doubt your own principles. You suspect your own motives. You cross-examine yourself to know why certain individuals unfollowed or unfriended you. Correct me if I am wrong but these are true.

Little did we know that we victimize ourselves by our own way of thinking!

I was once a victim of this absurdity and stupidity. But don’t get me wrong, I am still in so much gratefulness of those who liked and followed me (and those who will) and I don’t have any grudges against those who unfollowed or unfriended me. These added colors and extra flavors to my day to day life.

So, the good news is that I was saved before I drowned myself in that kind of foolish thinking.

Here are some secrets that unveiled themselves to me and made me swam beyond the surface and the numbers.

REAL ACCEPTANCE must come from yourself first. Cliche but this is generally true. Accept who you truly are. Accept your parading strengths. Accept your perfect weaknesses.


Accept that a person like me and you (we) can never please everybody. Accept that the people who liked you before may not like you now. Accept that your preference is not theirs. Accept that people’s emotions towards you may be momentary.

Look around you.

Your family, you might have forgotten, is there to accept you no matter what. They may not be able to follow you on Instagram or liked your every FB post but they are there without you trying to be who you are not. They love you just as you are without masks. They love you without you trying to impress.

Consider your not-fair-weather friends, who may be distant or may not be physically present every time but remained concerned about the real you, who look after your real growth and not dig up a well out of your silly mistakes.

Remember that you have been accepted by the Sovereign Ruler of the universe even before you were born. That you were set apart even before you earned your hard earned medals and trophies, even before you grow your social media followers, even before you came to your senses that you are one in billion creations.
I have loved you with an everlasting love;

I wonder if you’ll accept my words or not but I just want you to accept and appreciate yourself. That’s my bottom line.

At the end of our convo, I told him, “never ever put your value on the numbers you have on your social media accounts. You are way far more important than that.”

self worth

Bless your heart!



Celebrate Women’s Day!

Happy International Women’s Day!

A salute to all the women who continuously make the world a better place, who sacrifice, who battle the day-to-day responsibilities, who never get tired to love, who dream dreams, who pursue happiness and empowerment, who selflessly serve others, who give it all in the name of family, who inspire people around, who believe in the power of their existence!

I am blessed to be a woman. Even more blessed to share the women community with you!

Cheers, beautiful women! You are awesome!


Coffee Diaries:What paralyzes you today?

A year ago I wrote about what had paralyzed me.
I’m resharing this and wishing at a shooting star that this may break what stupefied you at some point in your life.

Bless your hearts! 💛
And thank God, it’s Friday!


No Coffee.

While writing this, I just happened to save myself from being groggy, dazed and stupefied for the final half of the day due to a caffeine deficiency. I made this disorder for myself due to an apparent change of force in my body for not taking a cup of coffee early this morning before I started working. This body of mine just set its own alarm of telling me I need an intake of caffeine or else I would again hear my students telling me “You’re like a zombie, Teacher Jirah”. I don’t want to be a coffee dependent  but the more I tried not to, the more I become one. 😛

Anyway, this is not about being a coffee addict. This is about how a simple thing could paralyze us. How about you? What paralyses you today?


Move forward.

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6 Reasons Why You’ll Fall In Love with the Sunset

Can you believe it? February is almost over with 4 days to go. I remember how I welcomed it with a post. We’ll be tearing the month off our calendar this year. Wow! Time flies indeed.

So here we go to another post today.

My younger brother and my boyfriend finds it funny seeing me dying to see the setting of the sun. Every day after arriving from work,  I would go straight to the terrace of my apartment and check whether the sun is on its way to conclude the day. And if what I see is freaking awesome, my boyfriend would hear my “WOW!”s and see me dashing through to get my phone and capture the sight.

Sometimes, he’d make fun of me by getting into the terrace before I do and pretend a wow and called me to witness a not so glorious sun setting sight. There he’d laugh. I don’t mind him laughing with my silly antics if that would make him happy. lol

Last Wednesday, I invited both of them together with my cousin to witness the sunset at Chaophraya River. I once blogged about going to the place, specifically in Asiatique, and fell in love (for the first time) with the sunset.


While on a boat to Asiatique, waiting for the sun to set fully.


My love for sunset is eternal. I have witnessed tons of sunsets but still would find the perfect place to watch it.

Every sunset is a reminder of many life truths. Here I listed some of the many reasons and reminders I have in mind and heart as I watch the sun paints hues of red, oranges and yellows and as clouds dance with the rhythm of sunsetting and adding more colors to my sunset sky.

“There is nothing more musical than a sunset.” ~ Claude Debussy

I am not sure if all of us could hear it. Sunset brings music to the soul and to the spirit. Sunset is a music on its own. It fills the heart with the music of inspiration, motivation, freedom, intimate affection and reassurance. It’s a music of revelation and outpouring of emotions.

“Sunsets are proof that no matter what happens, every day can end beautifully.” ~ Kristen Butler. 

Perfect inspiration! Not all sunsets may not be so glorious in human sight but watching it conclude the day is a beautiful phenomenon that not everyone could witness. It is still a beautiful day after all.

“Every sunset is an opportunity to reset.” ~ Richie Norton

Everyone needs a reset at some point in our lives. And as we stare at the sun as it sets, calmly it reveals the opportunity to have a pause, to think, to be silent, to introspect, to overcome or to hit that reset button for a specific area of our lives. It provides a very apt atmosphere to decide on trying something new and giving life more chances to reveal its beauty.

“It is almost impossible to watch a sunset and not dream.” ~Bern Williams

Dream dreams. To dream is free. To dream is a way of self-discovery. A discovery of the deepest desires of your heart. To dream dreams acts as an anchor of life – an anchor to move on, to keep going and to work until it comes to fulfillment.

“Every sunset brings the promise of a new dawn.”  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

A hope and faith for a brand new beginning. For God promised a life worth living, He positioned the sunset to remind us of His promises – His good and perfect will for us.

“From the rising of the sun to its setting, the name of the Lord is to be praised!” ~Psalm 113:3

Not only the sunrise but also the sunset speaks of God amazing love, gracious mercy, powerful nature and wonderful creations. Sunset paves a way to humility, to a genuine surrender and to the utmost praise of heart that finds comfort, relief and encouragement.

I wish and I pray that each and every sunset of your life will be meaningful, that it will be an open door for you to reset if the time calls for it, that it will lead you to dream big dreams and to thank God for your life.

Bless your hearts!




It Only Takes A Woman To Understand

I am committed to my gender and to all its intricacies – the springing of femininity during puberty, the sprouting of  sincere and the experimenting suitors, the possible character of being a wife, the precious chance of being a mom to a child and the dying of every active egg cell which lead to the drought of it – the menopausal.

I learned through time to embrace the webbed emotions of being a woman, the ever escalating responsibilities and great demand for maturity but not leaving behind the youthful spirit and state.

I realized that it takes a great woman to be a WOMAN.

So for today’s post, as the world is celebrating a day (a month) of love, I will be celebrating my love a great woman who I knew has been so great all these years.

My mom! 😊

My brother and I are living witnesses of how my mom showed us what a real woman is and what a real woman should be. This is quite personal to me as I am required to become a woman biologically and psychologically. My mom and I are each other’s ultimate confidante and I love it that way. I wouldn’t be this kind of lady if it’s not because of her who set the standard of being one.


So… It was half way through the last year when she told me something biological has taken place in her body. It’s something that only adult woman could experience and fully understand. She went through series of changing emotions and body reactions as caused by MENOPAUSE.

I couldn’t explain it fully how much discomfort she needed to go through and might still be going through at this stage. She gained weight, she had sleepless nights, slowed her metabolism and the prominent mood changes.

My youngest brother has been shocked by my mom’s mood swings because she has never been so easily irritated with his jokes and sarcasms but this stage just messed up her body functions specially her nervous system hormones that are responsible for mood and sleep. Hormone imbalances caused her to overreact to things that never used to disturb her.

As I talked to her and thought of her these days, I praise God for her life and for the coming of this menopausal stage in the right time of our maturity. This time that we can really understand what she’s going through as her children.

I thank God for allowing me and my two brothers to come to life through her, to experience the world and to enjoy living with her. 

She has been playing a great role – an incomparable character in my life.  As she goes through this stage and many more complexities that aging may bring to her, I wish and I pray that she’ll get through those with ease and grace. I’ll pray that I’ll do the same when time tells me that it’s my time.

So to all the women out there, I praise God for your lives and for your courage to embrace every single change in your physical body, emotions and situations no matter how much it requires of you. Be confident. Smile because it’s more beautiful than any curve in your body.


To the men who happened to read this all the way through this point, thank you for understanding and for loving the real woman inside us.

Bless your hearts!






‘Cause it’s Valentine’s Day or Hearts’ Day or Love Day, I would like to invite you all again to read this post I wrote a year ago…

—- I hope you’ll find something out of it. Bless your hearts! ❤️


It’s February, Love Month, and this write-up is a must. Nah! I disagree. I thought of writing this while in a public utility bus on my way to school out of the immense clatter in my mind. Not because I needed to but I wanted to.  Only one thing is for sure; that is, how I wish that when people type the words ‘love’ or ‘heart’ and ‘valentine’s day’ in search for images as decorations or quotable quotes for a Facebook status, they’ll come across this page and be able to take in something worth keeping in their selves and drive them to move.


It has all the intensifiers the dictionary may provide. I call it THE SUPERLATIVE. It is the only thing that remains undefined but can be enunciated by actions alone.

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For the past days and years, I have been writing about how wonderful the world can be and how a person is created beautifully. With doing that, the world just slapped me with the bitter reality.

I’ve written pieces with so much optimism, encouragement, and inspiration that I wish these could reach those people who need them on their most depressed time before they would decide to take their own lives.

There I said it.

I took all my courage pills to write this as I’m shaking whenever I hear or read about suicide. I may be overacting but this really frightened my inner self. How much more terrifying it is for me to talk about it.

I cannot imagine how much pain the person has been going through that he would choose to put a full stop to his own life story. I might never comprehend how much hopelessness has reigned over his heart that he could not bear to live another tomorrow. I am broken for the wasted lives.

These past few days, I’ve been reading several suicide stories and these crushed my heart — to the point that here I am now, writing this. Looking at the pictures, videos, reading the news melt my soul. If only I have the power to speak straight to their soul, I would and I will before they have taken any step to that horrible act.

Suicide is now a global phenomenon. World Health Organization (WHO) recorded death due to suicide in every 40 seconds.  Much more who attempted and failed. Suicide cases are mostly numbered by adolescents to young adults (15-29 years old) and some from other age groups. These were caused by many factors such as psychiatric illnesses, substance abuse, significant losses such as loss of job, a death of a family member or broken relationship and the loss of hope and the will to live. What makes this alarming to me is when suicide appeared to be the second cause of death among the 15-29-year-olds (the age group where I belong).


I seek more and more, these past few days, for inspirations that I wish I could tell these people before they make an attempt. I prayed and as I listened, God wants us to know that  He has given usHIS GRACE– His unmerited favor. What we ought to do is to acknowledge and accept it.

God’s grace releases supernatural strength within us to go through all the painful losses and the miserable pains. Such strength that will empower us to overcome. It ignites the determination within us to go through despite the sorrows.

God’s grace echoes in our spirit that He is within us and He enabled us.  Who shall be against us if we carry the power that rose Jesus from the grave? There may be giants in front of us, towering problems that may shake us, overwhelming pains that cause us to cry seas of tears but remember that those can never get any bigger than our God.

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He also has given us the gift of true family and real friends who are very much willing to listen to us. We just need to learn how to open up or at least show our real emotions. Enough of the masks. It is okay to be weak sometimes; perhaps that’s what we need for people to reach out to us.

If you come to the point of losing hope and wearying will, please be reminded of this truth. You are a beautiful creation. You are made perfect in your weaknesses. You are made to overcome. You have dominion over the earth and its dark entities.

I pray that we’ll break the spirit of suicidal tendencies.


Yes, I haven’t been in this situation of almost giving up on life but I believe God has given me a voice to inspire others as He gave it to all of us. Life is beautiful. We are given life to live for a purpose and to enjoy it and not to suffer. Problems in many forms are part of life to make us stronger. These should not lead us to take our own lives. We can never ever justify giving up.

As I write this, I’m hoping that we’ll always cling on to the grace of God that is unfailingly available in all of the seasons of our lives.




Thank you for the awesome responses and acceptance of my 5 Secrets of a Rose You Didn’t Know. Thanks for inspiring me. Bless your hearts! xoxo

5 Secrets of a Rose You Didn’t Know

We are all getting so obsessed with the coming of this second month of the year. There are some who would rather jump off straight to March (single bells!) and would choose to hibernate for the whole month (lol) yet most will wait for the midmonth celebration. So, let’s still welcome it with open arms as we cannot avoid its existence. (grin)

Hello February

So here we go, for today’s post.

Let’s begin with a get-to-know-each-other common question: what is your favorite flower? (If you do have one) or what flower causes you to marvel at its beauty once you see it?


Misconception:  Flowers are solely for girls. Truth: Flowers are for all gender though it is usually associated with femininity.

Why do I need to address this misconception? It’s definitely because this post is not intended to any particular gender only but to everyone who appreciates life and a rose!

roses knows no gender

I was on my way back to my classroom after a morning duty routine when I saw this full bloom of crimson red rose trampled on the basketball field with its stem unattached to it and leaves were all ripped off. Surprisingly, the flower managed to be so beautifully intact.

I picked it up and carried it to my desk as it rested on my palm. Fascination. That’s the only thing I could remember feeling that very moment I held it. Not that it’s the only rose I have ever seen in my entire life but how it brought one person into an awe of its beauty without the rose trying to be beautiful and how it actually directed me to take it from its place and influence my day without saying a thing to me.

As I looked at it almost all day, I pondered. I’m sharing with you the 5 secrets a trampled rose that you probably didn’t know.

1.It speaks through your heart without saying a word. There are so many messages that a rose can bring in into your heart; messages that are timely and appropriate to your current state or mood.

2.It mirrors who you are. It reflects how you see yourself. Which did you notice first – its flaws or its beauty? How do you usually calculate things around you? Do you usually measure the negatives over the positives or vice versa?

3.It’s naturally created with innate beauty just like you. Almost everyone appreciates roses for their beauty. It doesn’t mean that they do not have imperfections but you’ll appreciate them in the way they are. You’ll admire it just like that. The appreciation of your beauty must begin with yourself. Know your worth. You are of great value.

4.It is love per se. A rose could mean one thing or another. However, it radiates the greatest of these – LOVE. Every petal is an unfolding thoughtfulness.

5.It blooms for a purpose.  Even if I found it trampled on the ground, I knew, it served its purpose. I can’t picture out how much glee a heart which received it could have contained for a moment. It may be fleeting yet the purpose has been served.

Our lives may be fleeting nevertheless tell the world your story.

Be a rose that radiates love. Live a life that carries a message. Begin if you haven’t started yet to appreciate yourself because you are beautiful. Live a life with a purpose.

begin with yourself

One thing I want is to be just like this flower. I want to inspire people once they know me or even just encourage them with my presence without me pushing them to. I hope that I could influence other people’s lives even without saying a thing or so much to them. For what matters most is how we live our lives. Eventually, it will just create the message to other lives who witness our existence.